Introducing Toys into Your Relationship
Introducing a toy into your relationship doesn’t imply dissatisfaction or that your partner is trying to replace you; it actually means someone is curious about exploring mutual pleasure and intimacy. Our bodies crave different types of touch at various points in our lives, and for many of us, shifting hormones, stress levels, and emotional states mean that every week may bring something new. Whether it’s softer or firmer, buzzier or deeper, there’s no such thing as one-size-fits-all when it comes to pleasure. That’s the beauty of toys, they’re tools for tuning into what you need in the moment, together.
Here at BedNerdz, our toys, Sandy and Jessie, invite you to expand your ideas of pleasure, as each offers a uniquely pleasurable experience that can spark new sensations, connections, and intimacy. Together, these toys are more than just physical stimuli; they’re opportunities for mutual pleasure and intimacy that feel good for everyone involved.
Here are 4 reasons why introducing a toy into the bedroom can be a great enhancement!
1. Rekindle the Spark
Introducing a toy into your relationship can help support the excitement and curiosity that might have taken a back seat when it comes to feeling sexy and desired. It happens to the best of us; we get distracted, tired, and caught up in the routine of life, meaning sex gets put on hold and the excitement drifts away. Introducing a toy can help bring back that excitement.
2. Enhance Sensation and Variety
Different toys offer distinct sensations to the body and to the genitals. At BedNerdz, Sandy is a discreet, powerful, and remote-controlled bullet vibrator perfect for external stimulation. In contrast, Jessie is a clitoral stimulation toy designed for suction‑style pleasure. The two provide complementary experiences that can elevate solo or partnered sessions. But try to think outside the box, as these toys can bring all kinds of stimulation, not just to the genitals, but other erogenous zones for both of you.
3. Encourage Exploration and Communication
Using a toy together creates a fun, low-pressure way to discuss what you like and don’t like. Try having an open discussion about your preferences, sensitivities, and rhythms, as well as where you both like to be touched, especially when using new toys. In turn, that communication builds trust and understanding. Remember, sharing is caring, so don't be afraid to express your likes and dislikes.
4. Spicing Things Up Safely
For couples in long-term relationships, the novelty of a toy can bring a fresh perspective to their relationship. Learning to be playful again might just be the very thing you need to get things going again in your sex life.
Tips for Introducing Toys in a Relationship
- Start with a conversation, not action. Express your curiosities with ‘I’ statements and a willingness to listen to each other.
- Choose your toys together. Let both of you weigh in on which style of toy resonates most and whether you'd like to explore individual toys or couples' toys.
- Go slow and be patient with each other. Begin to build familiarity before having any expectations that might lead to disappointment. Sometimes a toy might take a few goes to get it hitting the right spot.
- Use lube and hygiene, always! Cleaning your toys before and after use is essential to good and safe hygiene. Using lube can make a world of difference, especially if it’s your first time and you're a little nervous.
- Make it playful and remember to have fun. Keep the mood light and explore settings, tease, laugh, and enjoy the journey.
When to Consider Adding a Toy
You might consider adding a toy to your relationship when intimacy starts to feel routine, and could benefit from something new being introduced. It could also be that one person is introducing a new form of touch or sensation to the mix, either to support or enhance their pleasure.
Whatever the reason, adding toys is an enhancement for everyone!
It’s also a great idea when one or both of you want to explore your personal pleasure styles more deeply, or if communication around desires and comfort needs a little support. Toys can help start conversations and offer new ways to connect. And for couples navigating long-distance dynamics or busy schedules, options like remote-controlled toys can help maintain intimacy and excitement, even when you’re apart.
