Bi-curious? Here’s What To Do Next

So, you're feeling a little curious when it comes to your sexuality. Maybe you've caught yourself checking out someone of the same gender, or maybe your fantasies are starting to branch out in new directions. First things first, curiosity is a healthy and natural part of exploring your sexuality, and it doesn't mean you need to have everything figured out right now or even act on it. 

Being bi-curious is simply about having an interest in exploring your sexual desires or experiences with people of more than one gender. It's not about labels, timelines, or pressure. It's about you and what you feel ready to explore.

Here's what you can do next if you're feeling curious and want to explore:

Get Comfortable with Curiosity

Bi-curiosity doesn't lock you into an identity; it's just a step in your journey that can remain fluid. Most importantly, you don't need to "prove" your sexuality to anyone. Ever. Think of it as giving yourself permission to explore without pressure on your terms. Being curious about sex, bodies, and pleasure is so unique to everyone, so lean into what feels good for you and not what you're supposed to do.

If you need some support, then try chatting with a trusted friend, or even following other bisexual creators online and asking them for advice or support can help you unpack your feelings and normalise the curiosity.

Start with Fantasies & Self-Exploration

Before diving into dating or physical experiences, it can be helpful to explore your curiosity privately so you know exactly what you want and don't want. Jumping into it straight away may work for some, but if this feels a little much, try some fantasy exploration and see what comes up. For example, reading or listening to some erotica, ethical porn, or even using toys can be a safe way to see what excites you.

Try this: Explore queer films, books, or ethical porn that represent different dynamics. Notice what turns you on and what doesn't. Self-play with toys designed for versatile pleasure can also be a great way to explore without anyone else involved. We recommend JESSE for clitoral stimulation or BODHI for anal exploration.

Communicate Openly if You're Partnered

If you're in a relationship, honesty matters (if it feels safe to share), then share your curiosity with your partner in a way that feels good for you. You might be surprised, many couples explore together, whether that's talking about fantasies, introducing roleplay, or trying new dynamics.

Be prepared, this might come as a shock to your partner, especially if the relationship has been going on for a while. Come to the conversation with an understanding of what it is you want or need moving forward and how they might fit into that, if you want them to. When we can communicate clearly about what's going on, it gives our partners the chance to respond with honesty, too.

Dip Your Toes into Community

Feeling curious often comes with wanting to connect, and when it comes to sex, you might feel the need to explore on a more intimate level. A great place to do this would be LGBTQ+ events, online spaces, or dating apps that allow you to state your preferences, which can help you explore in a low-pressure way.

The best advice is to be upfront if you're exploring and curious, so others know where you stand and can support you in a way that meets you where you are.

Take It Slow & Prioritise Safety and Respect

Your sexuality isn't on a deadline and doesn't need any labels yet. You can explore gradually, and it's perfectly valid if you find you enjoy some things and not others. Desire and sexuality aren't black and white, and it's okay if your curiosity evolves over time or not at all.

Exploration should feel exciting, not stressful. Be sure to set clear boundaries for yourself and only pursue experiences that make you feel comfortable.

Stepping Into Bi-Curious Life

Being bi-curious isn't about having all the answers; it's about allowing yourself to ask questions, explore, find comfort in your desires and be fully you while doing it. Whether you end up identifying as bisexual, pansexual, queer, or simply straight-but-curious, the important thing is that you're open to learning more about yourself.