Everything you need to know about your vulva

Let's talk vulvas. The word might not make you think this, but your vulva IS a superstar: unique, powerful, and full of ways to experience pleasure. It's an area filled with shame, yet marked by curiosity and a lack of education, yet it holds so much potential. Whether you're curious about your vulva, looking to boost your confidence, or ready to explore new sensations, this guide is here to keep things fun, factual, and fabulous.

It's Time To Meet Your Vulva.

First things first, it's time you met your vulva. Why is this important? Because knowledge is power, and when you know what's going on down there, how it looks and feels, you can take care of yourself, advocate for your pleasure, and shut down those awkward myths once and for all. Most importantly, you can keep an eye on your health and areas that feel good and that don't tickle your fancy.  

Grab a mirror, get nakey nakey and find a comfortable position to take a look. I encourage you to look at it with kind eyes. Not only is our vulva an area of the body not often seen, but we are also taught that they aren't beautiful. I want you to challenge that thought and any harsh words that come up when you take a look. Are these thoughts your own, or have you been conditioned to feel that way about your body?

Vulvas Are Like Snowflakes. Each One Is Totally Unique.

If you've ever wondered if your vulva looks "normal," here's the truth: there is no normal. Vulvas come in all shapes, sizes, and colours. Some have larger inner labia, some smaller. Some are tucked in, some are a little out. Some are darker, lighter, or a beautiful mix. They're all completely healthy and normal. Another thing they don't teach us is that as you age, so does your vulva. Due to hormonal shifts, pregnancy and time, your vulva will change in shape, colour, elasticity and wetness. Again, all completely normal.

So, next time you're tempted to compare yours to a friend, something you've seen on TV or porn, don't. Your vulva is perfectly you.

Anatomy 101: A Quick Tour.

Understanding our anatomy isn't just about learning a diagram; it's about having power and knowledge about a truly unique part of your body. It can support you in providing the correct terminology when visiting a doctor, better understanding your pleasure and also being the educated one at the table during trivia nights! So let's get stuck in...

• Labia majora: The outer lips that protect everything inside.
• Labia minora: The inner lips are more delicate and often very sensitive.
• Clitoris: The MVP of pleasure with over thousands of nerve endings (and that's just the tip—you've got a whole network internally!).
• Vaginal opening: Where penetration can happen, but remember, pleasure doesn't begin and end here.
• Urethra: Where you pee from. (Nope, not the same as the vagina!)

Taking Care of Your Vulva.

Good news, vulva care is low-maintenance despite what you see on the shelves in Boots. We have been brainwashed into thinking our vulvas need to smell like roses... it shouldn't. It's essential to skip harsh soaps and scented washes; plain water is usually enough. Choose breathable underwear (cotton is your BFF) and give yourself some commando nights to let things breathe. If you notice itching, pain, or unusual discharge, check in with a doctor.

And above all, be kind to yourself. Vulvas aren't meant to be "perfect", you're only human!

Now, The Good Bit. Let's Talk Pleasure.  

So, how do you begin exploring? Solo play is the perfect first step. Discovering what feels good when you're on your own not only builds confidence, it also makes partnered intimacy far less awkward. And with today's sex tech, you've got some seriously exciting tools right at your fingertips.

The truth is, many of us feel awkward or even ashamed about asking for what we want, showing a partner how we like to be touched, or admitting when something doesn't feel great. Why? Because we've been fed the myth that everyone should "know" what to do during sex, and that all vulvas respond the same way. Newsflash: they don't. Every vulva has its own preferences, sensitivities, and sweet spots. What feels like heaven for one person might not work for you, and that's completely normal.

So how do we move past the shame and fear of asking, or showing, what we really want? Here are two simple ways to change the narrative:

1. Practise on your own.

Exploration starts with you. Learn what feels good, get clear on your desires, and stay grounded in your body. When you know what you like, it's easier to ask for it with confidence. You deserve pleasure that feels amazing, so claim it, no apologies.

2. Flip the perspective.

Imagine you're touching your partner's genitals in a way that doesn't feel great for them. Would you be upset if they told you? Or would you feel grateful that they trusted you enough to guide them toward what does feel good? Chances are, it's the latter. Intimacy isn't about guessing games; it's about creating pleasure for both of you. So why deny yourself the chance to enjoy it fully?

Toys to Try (Bed Nerdz Edition)

Ready to start exploring your vulva and what feels good for you? Here are some vulva-friendly toys from the Bed Nerdz collection to explore:

• JESSE (Clitoral Suction Vibrator): Imagine tiny air pulses giving your clit a kiss, intense, precise, and guaranteed to bring the fireworks. Perfect for discovering the power of external stimulation.
• CALI (Wand Massager): A classic for a reason. From gentle teasing to deep, toe-curling pulses, CALI is like giving your vulva its very own spa day.
• MIKI (Curved G-Spot Vibrator): Ready to go exploring inside? MIKI's curve is designed to find your G-spot and unlock new levels of sensation.
• Sunset Strip Box: Can't decide? This curated bundle features CALI, JESSE, and MIKI in one dreamy package. Think of it as your pleasure starter kit.

Every toy is designed with your body in mind, and Bed Nerdz keeps things discreet, from shipping to packaging, so it's just between you and your vulva.

Your Vulva, Your Rules

Your vulva is so much more than a body part; it's a source of pleasure that shouldn't be ignored. Whether you're learning to love how it looks, embracing solo play, or experimenting with toys, the most important thing is this: have fun and be kind to your vulva!

Celebrate its uniqueness, explore what excites you, and treat your vulva like the queen it is. And when you're ready to upgrade your toolkit, Bed Nerdz has your back (and your front).